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16 Reasons To Have Daily Sex

16 Reasons To Have Daily Sex

THE MIND UNLEASHED

Stressed, burdened with life’s difficult problems and fear that your health is declining? Then sex is the answer to happiness, longevity and a healthy body. You don’t agree?

1. De-stress
Sex helps you reduce stress. When deep breathing exercises fail to de-stress you, sex will do the needful.

During sex your body produces dopamine, a substance that fights stress hormones, endorphins, aka “happiness hormones” and oxytocin, a desire-enhancing hormone secreted by the pituitary gland.

In a study, published in the Public Library of Science journal, three neuroscience researchers conducted a test on male rats and found that the sexually active rats were less anxious than rats with no sexual activity.

2. Great Form of Exercise
Making love is a form of physical activity. During intercourse, the physiological changes in your body are consistent with a workout. You must have noticed that the respiratory rate rises, which means you get tired. Hence, you burn calories. If you have sex three times a week for 15 minutes (but we know you can do better than that) you’ll burn about 7.500 calories in a year. That’s the equivalent of jogging 75 miles! Heavy breathing raises the amount of oxygen in your cells, and the testosterone produced during sex keeps your bones and muscles strong.

3. Lowers high blood pressure
Hugs and sex can improve your blood pressure. Sex reduces diastolic blood pressure, that is, the bottom number while reading blood pressure.

Researchers with the University of Paisley conducted an experiment on the same. They concluded that sex improves blood pressure.

4. Builds your immunity
Trying to fight the sniffles? Sex is the answer to fight cold and other health problems; sex can boost your immunity.

Immunoglobulin A, an antigen that fights the flu increases when the frequency of sex increases.

5. Makes You Look Younger
Making love three times a week can make you look 10 years younger, claims a Scottish researcher. “It’s good for you to have good sex,” says David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, whose study on the effects of sex on aging appears in his book, Secrets of the Superyoung.

6. Healthy heart
Sex helps you burn calories but it can also improve your heart. Sex will take care of stroke and heart attacks, you just have to enjoy the moment.

Scientists with New England Research Institute examined the effect of sex on the heart. The study concluded that men are 45 percent less likely to experience cardiovascular diseases. But the study fails to study the effect of sex on a woman’s heart.

7. Pain relief
Pleasure is the measure to beat out the pain. Do you experience migraines and body pain? Well sex is the answer. But if you experience back pain, it is best to consult a doctor.

Dr. George E. Erlich, an arthritis specialist from Philadelphia conducted a study on the link between arthritis and sex. He narrows down that patients who engaged in sex experienced less pain.

8. Builds trust and intimacy
The act of sex spikes the hormone oxytocin; this hormone is responsible for your happiness and love. If your feel your relationship is falling out, there is trust or you’re worried that your partner will stray away, then sex will dispel these doubts. The hormone oxytocin builds trust and brings couples closer, and cupid too.

9. Less chances of cancer
Regular ejaculation reduces your chances of developing prostate cancer. In an Australian study men who ejaculated 21 times a month were least likely to develop cancer. It is further supported by other researches that sexual intercourse reduces the risk of prostrate cancer.

10. Stronger pelvic muscles
Sex involves the use of several muscles; hence regular sexual intercourse can help you develop stronger pelvic muscles. Further, since the act of sex involves a range of muscles, it also helps strengthen these muscles – for ex: quads, your core, and the upper back. Through regular sex, you can also maintain a strong bladder and bowel function.

Strong muscles, calorie burner, improves heart health – sex seems to take care of you.

11. Prostate Protection 
Most of the fluid you ejaculate is secreted by the prostate gland. If you stop ejaculating, the fluid stays in the gland, which tends to swell, causing lots of problems. Regular ejaculation will wash those fluids out and ensure the well being of your prostate until old age. Problems may also occur when you suddenly change the frequency of ejaculations.

12. Induces sleep
After that great, lovely workout you are bound to get good sleep. But guess what? Sex works the same way as exercise. The increased heart rate leads to increased post-coital relaxation. Sex could be the next thing for insomniacs! So what really happens:
- Sex can relax you, hence if you are already tired, the act of sex will induce sleep.
- When men ejaculate they become lethargic, this can make them sleepy.

13. Regular periods
Apparently sex can improve your menstrual cycle. Sex regulates hormones, which in turn regulate the menstrual cycle. Sex reduces stress, which is one of the reasons women miss their periods. Sex seems like a better option than pills.

14. Prevents Erectile Dysfunctions
Fifty per cent of men older than 40 suffer from erectile dysfunctions and all young men fear the moment when they won’t be able to get it up any more. The best medicine against impotence is…sex. An erection keeps the blood flowing through your penile arteries, so the tissue stays healthy. Plus, doctors compare an erection to an athletic reflex: the more you train the more capable you are to perform.

15. Live longer
A healthy heart, stronger muscles, increased circulation of oxygen and happiness are some of the factors that add life to the years and as a result – years to your life.

A study published in the British Medical Journal reveals that men who engaged in sex often live twice as those who rarely had any action.

16. Healthier semen
If you’re trying to conceive, you increase the volume of semen if you have sex regularly. Regular sex replaces old sperms from the testicles. If there is a natural build of sperms it can lead to DNA damage.

8 Things women just don't do anymore (that they should!)

There was a time when a women was a time when a woman's greatest duty and achievement was taking care of her man. The women of the 2003 movieMona Lisa Smile were a great example of what women were essentially bred to do. They went to college, but they didn't really plan on using their degrees (or even graduating in some cases). The plan was to get married as soon as possible and put those Home Ec skills to good use!

But today's breed of women is certainly a different one. Many historical events have lead to the evolution of the female role and Suzy Homemaker is now Ms. Independent. But just because certain "old-fashioned" ways have been phased out, doesn't mean they should be completely retired. You can still have your career and your own mind and what not, but maybe there are a few things that women just don't do anymore, that they should!

Cook

Some women these days don't cook! Back in the day, every woman had to take home economics. It was mandatory. It pretty much taught you how to be a wife. You learned how to cook, clean, sew, polish silver, host a dinner party, and help your man get a promotion! Nowadays, women only know how to cook if someone took the time to teach them how to cook. But if you're 20-something (or older) and still don't know how to cook, you better get started on some Pinterest meals! Start with the easy stuff and work your way up. You at least need to know how to make two or three meals for your man that he will love. 

Clean

Some people are slobs and some are neat freaks and some are somewhere in between. But a lot of women don't really know how to "keep house". A lot of people nowadays didn't even have chores growing up. But even the ones who did have chores growing up feel like they're "grown" now and don't have to do that anymore. Well you do! And while your husband/boyfriend should be able to pick up after himself, as the woman of the house, you should be able to maintain a clean house. 

Fix his plate

Women across the country at cookouts and family reunions and holidays can now be heard saying "He can fix his own plate... Ain't nothin' wrong with his legs..." (with an eye roll). That is not right ladies! You should honor your man by fixing his plate. You don't necessarily have to do it every single time he eats (because seriously, there's nothing wrong with his legs), but at least do it when you are in public as a sign of respect. And no, it's not demeaning. Have a servant's heart. Respect and honor him and he should return the favor. 

Watch your mouth

Women these days curse way too much! It used to be illegal to curse in public (it technically still may be in some places). And "a lady" didn't curse. Nowadays, we're all just calling each other b*****s and h**s like it's no big deal - like it's a compliment! And some women curse like a sailor. That is just not attractive. Try to refrain from cursing, especially in certain situations - like maybe church, class, in front of his new boss, etc. Have some class!

Dish out compliments

Women of the 1950s TV sitcoms were quick to compliment their man. But nowadays women just want to soak up all the compliments. But the truth is, it should go both ways. If anything, men should receive way more compliments than women because they are way more sensitive and insecure than they let on. Try to increase the number of compliments you dish out each day. Whatever you're doing now, it's probably not enough. 

Keep yourself up

Women used to really focus on "keeping themselves up" and always "looking presentable". Always. At all times. There was no walking out in public with your hair wrapped or in curlers. And there definitely was no being seen in public in sweats (or the 1950s equivalent). Nowadays, women are so comfortable and lax that they'll just go out looking any kind of way and don't really invest effort in maintaining their bodies in general. Work out. Eat healthy. Look presentable. Take care of yourself. You are a reflection of your man. Make him look good!

Dress up for dates

Just because you've been in a relationship for awhile now doesn't mean you don't have to take the time to look nice when you go out together. Date night should be just as exciting as a first date! Women used to put forth just as much effort regardless of if it was a new suitor or her husband of twenty years. Keep doing what you did to get him to keep him! He will definitely notice and appreciate the extra effort. 

Anticipate his needs

You should be so in tune with your man that you know what he's thinking before he thinks it. You should know what he wants and needs before he even asks. Women used to be on point when it came to this one! They would have a cold beer waiting, a cigar, and dinner on the table. She would take his hat and coat before he could even get in the door good! But now, women tend to ignore the signs and just wait on him to ask (and then complain about it!). Don't do that. Try to anticipate his wants and needs. Be that help meet that he needs. As his woman, you should make him better. 

When And Why A Woman Sleeps With A Man

When And Why A Woman Sleeps With A Man

Men work so hard to discover formulas that will get women to sleep with them. They have all of their tricks—their lines—and they think they’ve got it figured out. But in reality, if a woman sleeps with a man, it’s probably for one of these reasons: - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/120225/when-and-why-a-woman-sleeps-with-a-man/#sthash.2cojujAA.dpuf

He’s sweet and he deserves sex

 It’s like the high school cheerleader that slept with the band nerd. Or the sorority girl who slept with the “alternative” guy who wasn’t in the Greek system. Sometimes, a woman just sees that a guy is a sweet, good person who deserves to have some good sex. And, she knows he will be psyched to get to have it with her because she is way out of his league. And for a woman, it can feel good to be that wanted sometimes.

She needs to cut loose

 She is on vacation. She leads too rigid of a life. She is tired of having to stick to the “plan.” The plan of making him wait X amount of time so he respects her. The plan of only sleeping with men she plans on having a relationship with. A lot of sexual frustration can get pent up living a life like that and sometimes, a woman just needs to cut loose and invite the cute foreign guy from the club home for the night.

She just got screwed over

 She had a boyfriend who she had given her all to. She was devoted to him. She treated him like a king. And he cheated on her. Or just told her one day “I’m in love with someone else.” And she realizes he has been having his fun all along—he was getting to have his cake and eat it too. And now she is ready to eat some cake. She deserves it after sitting around waiting at home for that ahole.

She’s drunk & the date went well

 Sometimes, she just gets caught up in the moment. The chemistry has been there since the first second of the date. The conversation has been incredible. The guy took her to the most amazing restaurant. There has already been a ton of kissing, cuddling and….drinking on the date. It just seems natural to go to bed with a guy at this point.

She’s waited “long enough”

 Some women know they are hyper sexual beings. They have made the mistake of sleeping with a guy on the first date too many times so they finally set up a rule for themselves: no sex until date #X. But, as soon as that number comes along, they are so ready to reward themselves for waiting.

He’s waited “long enough”

Some women have rules. They believe that the only way to truly know if a man likes them is to make him wait 3 months, 6 months, 9 months…to have sex. If they sleep with him before this, they are forever nervous after that that he only likes them for the sex.

You’ve been friends for a while

 If a woman has been friends with a guy for a long time and then suddenly, one night her feelings take a turn for the more corporeal, she might just sleep with him on the spot. She won’t necessarily ask him on a date, or just tell him she likes him. She might just grab him, kiss him, and steer her towards the bedroom. Since he has been her friend, she already knows he likes and respects her, so she doesn’t feel the need to make him jump through the dating hoops.

Seven Things You Should Never Tell Your Man…

Seven Things You Should Never Tell Your Man…

Ladies, I know trust is the number one thing in relationships and that open and honest communication is needed to have a successful and meaningful one. While this may hold true in the overall sense of love and happiness there are times when honesty isn’t always the best practice. Let’s be real, men cannot handle sticky situations like we do. They are a lot more sensitive than women when it comes to bruising their ego and they often have a difficult time being phony or straight faced when it comes to pretending they don’t know the truth about something or someone. This is why it’s important for you to know what not to tell your man, no matter how much you love him. Grab a pen and paper and take notes.. - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/63645/seven-things-you-should-never-tell-your-man/#sthash.aSUlp8By.dpuf

1)      The real reason you broke up with your ex He really doesn’t need to know why you broke up with your ex-boyfriend. I know us ladies have a bad habit of telling too much when it comes to our past relationships. Your man does not need to know your last boyfriend cheated on you or that you cheated on him. Just say it didn’t work it out.

2)       Your friends business Ladies, I can’t tell you how many times we fall into this trap of getting so close to our man that we start to share the juicy gossip stories about our friends. This is never a good idea. Men are hardwired to only hear the facts so they are not going to understand that your girl Susie is painting the town red with every eligible bachelor because she is trying to take her mind off of her breakup heartache. He is only going to conclude that your friend is ‘loose’. Plus men often times have a bad memory and forget that what you told him was a secret and may ask your friend “how is your xyz going”.

3)       I mentioned before, men are very sensitive especially when they are trying to please you. If he buys you a gift that you absolutely hate -fake it! Tell him that you love it and you appreciate his thoughtfulness. I know this may be hard to do with a smile but trust me it will be worth it in the long run.

4)      Confess that you lied I know this sounds contradicting, but under no circumstances should you confess that you lied about something. It will only make you look bad and the situation worse. Men want to believe that everything that comes out of their woman’s mouth is the sweet honest truth. Let’s please keep it that way.

5)      His friends are losers You’re probably right if you think his boys are 100% losers. But those are his boys for a reason and if they are indeed no good in due time he will figure it out and realize he’s out grown them.

6)      How you really feel about his mother I should have made this point number one. Never, ever, ever tell your man what you really think about his mother. His mother just may be conniving, manipulative, sneaky or whatever but his mother is second to God (maybe before) in his life. So no matter how real you want to keep it, never keep that part real.

7)      Who you ‘broke off’ on your ‘break up’ Sometimes couples break up and then get back together a few months later with this notion of putting everything on the table to start fresh. While this is great news there are something’s that should be kept in your back pocket like who you had a few rendezvous with while you were living the single life. All your man needs to know is that you spent your time reflecting on what went wrong in the relationship and getting to know yourself. He shouldn’t know you were getting to know Mike and Larry too.

Common Ways Women Misunderstand Men

Common Ways Women Misunderstand Men

Women are great at couching things. We are great at dishing out the worst insult, in the sweetest way so that the receiver barely knows whether to smack us or thank us. We don’t like to be mean. Most importantly, we decide what to do and say based on what we want the overall outcome to be. We women don’t always speak from our gut, but from our heads, thinking “how will this affect things in the long run?” Men are a little more reactive. They aren’t as good at covering up the expression that just swept across their face, or coming up with a nicer way to say something. And more often than not, women take it the wrong way: - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/94363/common-ways-women-misunderstand-men/#sthash.ZLloGXyS.dpuf

What does “I don’t know” mean anyway?

 When a woman says “I don’t know” it often means “no I don’t want to do that” “no I don’t love you” “no I did not orgasm.” “No” is too harsh for us, so we say “I don’t know” instead. So when men say it, we think it’s game over. No he doesn’t love us. No he doesn’t want to go do that with us. No he didn’t orgasm. But, usually, when a man says “I don’t know” he really just doesn’t know, and doesn’t want to jump to giving an answer yet.

Silence after sweetness

This is similar to the “I don’t know” misunderstanding. You tell your man you are so excited to spend a whole two weeks alone, just the two of you, on vacation. You tell your man you have never loved someone as much as you love him. You tell him you feel like he fits into your family perfectly. And he says…nothing. He smiles. He nods. Women often read this as very cruel—as the guy passively saying that he feels the exact opposite way. The truth is, he may just not feel whole heartedly the exact same way, and he knows what a dumb*ss he looks like when he tries to fake enthusiasm. He doesn’t feel 100% the opposite as you do, but he doesn’t feel 100% the same. So he says nothing.

Not in the mood

 It’s really not true that guys are always in the mood to have sex. But, because we are told this, women often think that a guy is just not into us, or that we did something that put a guy off, if he doesn’t want to have sex. But, I have had plenty of exes have their one off night when they said they just weren’t in the mood, but they still wanted to cuddle the hell out of me and tell me how crazy they were about me. Men’s libidos dip sometimes, just like women’s. Doesn’t mean they are repulsed by you.

Criticizing your family or friends

 Women like to be supported. They like their men to have their back. So, sometimes, in a misguided attempt, your man will make a snide remark about a friend that you have been complaining about lately, or even say something critical about your mother if the two of you have been bumping heads. He is trying to show he is on your side, but the rule stands the same for every family; “nobody makes fun of my family but me.” So, we can get offended when he is just trying to be supportive.

Taking time out

 Not everyone needs to hash things out in a fight right then and there. Some people need time to think. Men will often bolt early on in a fight, saying they don’t want to talk about it, or need to be alone. And women read this as them just not caring. When really, even if they seem pissed or indifferent at first, usually they go off and think about the fight and how to resolve it.

Needing alone time

 For whatever reason, men tend to need time away from the relationship more than woman do. Be realistic and ask yourself how often you hear your female friends complaining that their boyfriends don’t call enough, don’t plan dates for them enough, and just aren’t there as much as she they wish they were. Women are better at coupling up. So, if we tell a guy that we need “alone time” or “space,” that is usually the beginning of the end. If a guy says it, he might just need some alone time, and when he returns from it, he will feel just as strongly about you as he did before.

Simple Ways You Can Be Sexier To Him

Simple Ways You Can Be Sexier To Him

Men are simple creatures and when it comes to getting sexay for them, putting in too much effort can only intimidate them, and make them feel they have to rise to some challenge. The sexiest things you do, you do naturally. Like this - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/275638/simple-ways-you-can-be-sexier-to-him/#sthash.HCADV21Q.dpuf

1. Pick an outfit out in front of him

 While men may not have the fashion vocabulary to talk to you about your new outfits, they love when you simply get dressed in front of them—putting on different tops, cocking your head to the side, turning around to get a rear view. Watching you analyze your own beauty is a turn on for men.

2. Boast about yourself

 Being cocky is never attractive, but having confidence always is. If you really worked hard to earn something or achieve something, men love it when you allow yourself to enjoy that and take pride in it.

 

3. Wear your hair up

 Men love your neckline. The tight, formal up-dos intimidate them. But they love that moment when you’re quickly tossing your hair into a bun before bed, or while washing your face.

4. Support his passions

 Men are always revved up after seeing their favorite football team play, or going for a ride on their bike, or fishing, or whatever it is they’re into. And they’re even more revved up if you somehow contributed to that happening—maybe by buying them a great new fishing rod, or telling them about a biker convention happening in town. They’re twice as excited if they feel you are too.

5. Tease his quirks

 Nothing makes a person feel seen and understood like having their quirks teased. When your boyfriend is doing something that is just so him, point it out, and kiss him right after. Making him feel loved for being uniquely him is a huge turn on.

6. Cook for him

 Call them old fashioned, but even modern men love a woman who cooks. Even if you’re not the greatest chef in the world, men love the idea of you taking the time to feed them. And they love to watch your hands work with food, and your hips sway in an apron.

7. Do something understated and thoughtful

 If your guy simply mentioned his pillow is too fluffy and he comes home to find you bought him a new one, or he was out of deodorant so you picked some up, he’ll adore you. Realizing you’re paying attention to the details makes a man feel extra safe, and that’s a turn on.

8. Go braless

 Women forget the power of the Areola. Going braless in public might embarrass you and your man, but taking the liberty to let the girls hang loose in the privacy of your home, in a tank top or t-shirt, is something any man would like to see.

9. Do your passion in front of him

 Sculpt in front of him, teach your yoga class in your home, play the piano. Your talent and your passion excite your man. Plus men love to see the other sides of you, besides just “girlfriend.”

10. Make him laugh

 If you can make him laugh, that’s a major plus. If you can make his friends laugh, he can’t wait to take you to bed. Men agree everywhere that a humorous woman is a sexay woman.

11. Hit on him at an unexpected time

 Next time he’s simply perusing cereal while you’re out shopping, come up close behind him and whisper in his ear how fine he is. Half the enjoyment of sex is the anticipation, and you can get that started much earlier than you think.

12. Hug him tight

 We underestimate the power of a quality hug. Your stomachs touching, your face in his chest, the scent of your hair under his nose. It’s an all-enveloping type of intimacy, and it’s so easy.

13. Smile more

 Even if you’re just cleaning the kitchen, or working on your laptop—take a moment to look up and smile at your man as often as you can. Knowing his presence makes you happy gives him confidence.

14. Help with tough times

 Even though your guy may not be in the mood for sex when he’s going through a particularly trying or traumatic time, he’ll always remember if you made his whole family lunch the day a grandparent died, or did all his chores the week he lost his job. Knowing you’re a pillar of strength makes you ten times as Hot.

Ways You’re Turning Him Off Without Realizing It

Ways You’re Turning Him Off Without Realizing It

Have you been getting the, “Not tonight” line a lot lately? We won’t sugarcoat it: it is weird for a physically healthy male to be turning down easy, available sex. And you might be causing his lack of libido, without knowing it. Here’s How: - See more at: http://madamenoire.com/276117/ways-youre-turning-him-off-without-realizing-it/#sthash.mMiEJoYz.dpuf

1. You pat his belly

 You do it to show you love all of him, and because you think it’s cute. And while your partner appreciates that he can be comfortable about every part of himself around you, he doesn’t like to know you’re so aware of his growing belly. Stop patting it.

2. Your girlfriends and you talk about their sex life

 Right in front of your guy, you and your girlfriends gab on about what their men do in bed, which pretty much lets your man know you talk about what he does in bed too. And that makes him not want to go to bed with you anymore. (He’s heard the way you and your friends tease every noise, movement and facial expression their men make).

3. You’re talking down to yourself

 You’re calling yourself fat, or your boobs small, or your nose big. He obviously likes how the whole package comes together, or he wouldn’t be with you. But he can’t help but focus on your flaws when you’re so focused on them. And that’s a turn off.

4. There’s too much domestic talk

 There’s too much talk of which couch to buy, or what to put on the shopping list, or even your kid’s digestive issues. You have many roles: friend, lover, partner and even family. If you want to be seen more as a lover, you need to talk more like one.

5. Sex is predictable

 It comes at the same time every night, and you’re doing all the same things. Some men can’t be turned on if they know exactly what’s coming next. Switch it up.

6. Sex is followed by long talks

 You feel the need to get into hour-long talks about life and the universe and your dreams every time you guys finish. And while your guy does appreciate a good conversation with you, he kinda wants to pass out after sex.

7. You’re not affectionate enough

 To be honest, hopping up on him at night might not be enough to make him feel wanted. Most men need to receive affection from you throughout the day to really believe it when you grab their member in bed at night. Kiss him good morning, hug him when he’s cooking, sit on his lap while he’s watching TV. Men need momentum leading up to sex.

8. Too many sex scenes

 You don’t need to have Adult Videos on replay in order for your man to feel intimidated by simulated sex. If you and your guy watch a lot of movies that simply have intense sex scenes, he could start to be insecure about how your sex life adds up, and give up all together. Throw your guy a bone and watch some action flicks or comedies—laughter is an aphrodisiac.

9. You’re coddling him

 You’re constantly showing up at his office with a surprise lunch, buying him things, cleaning up his clothes and planning surprises for him. You’re making it impossible for him to keep up and meet you halfway with the generosity, and if a man feels he isn’t meeting you halfway, he doesn’t feel like a man. Let him be a provider—it turns him on.

10. You’re bossy in bed

 You sound like a traffic control officer in bed. You think you’re being communicative; he thinks he can’t do anything right on his own. And he kind of feels like your dildo—did it ever occur to you he was happy in that position?

11. You’re drinking too much

 You’re sipping one too many glasses of wine before bed, and that makes your advances not feel genuine to him. Plus, you’re getting sloppy in bed.

12. You’re not listening to him

 Men need someone to vent to, just as women do. If you try to change the subject every time your guy wants to tell you about his stresses, he’ll begin to feel distant from you. More importantly, he’ll feel you don’t care about his wellbeing and why would he want to pleasure a woman who doesn’t care about him?

13. You’ve let yourself go

It’s a harsh truth but many women don’t even realize that they gain weight, stop taking good care of their skin, and in general make less of an effort to look good after being in a relationship for a while. Physical attraction does matter, even when emotional attraction is strong.

14. Too much talk about his (lack of) work

 You ask him too often how the job-hunt is going, or when he’ll get that promotion. A man’s identity and feeling of worth in the world is deeply tied to his career. If he’s falling short in some way, talking about that only makes him feel like less of a man.

14 Things You May Not Know About Orgasms

14 Things You May Not Know About Orgasms

Orgasms: sometimes reaching one seems as complicated as reaching the magical land through the closet in “The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe”—the tiniest wrong turn, or speed, and you just won’t get there. But, they aren’t all scary: there are some really great facts about the big O! Plus some comforting ones. Here’s what we learned from WomansDay.com.

1. You need to tense up to orgasm

 Contrary to the popular relief that you need to relax or go limp to orgasm, your likelihood of reaching orgasm increases when you tense up. Doing a Kegel (imitating the contraction you would do if you were trying to hold in urine) sends blood flow to your vaginal area, which helps with arousal.

2. They can replace your

 Advil Because having an orgasm releases oxytocin—a chemical that induces feelings of relaxation, peace, safety and other positive feelings—they can briefly alleviate pain from everything like a headache to arthritis.

3. Just thinking of an orgasm can relieve pain

 Research has shown that simply thinking about an orgasm—really thinking about it by closing your eyes, visualizing a partner and imagining the sensations—can relieve pain.

4. Condoms won’t minimize your orgasm

 Studies have found that women are just as likely to reach orgasm with or without a condom. In fact, some scientists speculate condoms may help a woman’s chances of reaching orgasm: since the man doesn’t need to worry about ejaculating too early and needing to pull out, he might be able to last longer.

5. 1 in 3 women struggle to orgasm

 Planned Parenthood reports that 1 in 3 women struggle to orgasm with a partner, and as high as 80% of women struggle to orgasm from intercourse alone. As a whole, female sexual dysfunction (which includes failure to orgasm) is experienced by 43% of women.

6. There are medications that can help you orgasm

 Eros, an FDA-approved device, helps blood flow to the genitals and can up a woman’s chances of orgasm. There are also over-the-counter creams that can increase sensitivity in the vaginal region.

7. The origins of the “G-spot”

 Many women believe the “G-spot” simply stands for the “Good spot” but in fact it is named after Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a German gynecologist that discovered the region of female genitalia that contains a large cluster of nerve endings.

8. Orgasms improve with age

 If you’re getting depressed about wrinkles or the effect gravity is taking on your boobs, here’s one thing to cheer up about regarding getting older: your sex life might get better! Studies have shown that more women in their 40’s and 50’s experience regular orgasms than women in their 30’s. There is no scientific reasoning behind these findings, but it could be because with time comes experience and older women know how to direct their partner to help them orgasm more.

9. Variety can help you orgasm

 Women have reported having an easier time climaxing if they incorporate several sexual acts or positions into a romp session. For example, having your partner both manually please you and have intercourse with you will make it more likely that you’ll orgasm than just one or the other.

10. If you love your vagina, you’re more likely to orgasm

 There is a link between a woman’s sexual confidence and her likelihood of orgasm. If a woman feels insecure about the way her vagina looks, feels, smells, tastes—you name it—she’ll struggle to orgasm. Just know that there is no such thing as a “normal” vagina and they come in all shapes, colors and sizes.

11. Men don’t realize how infrequent your orgasms are

 One study had 84% of men reporting that they believed their partner orgasmed last time they had sex, but only 64% of women reported having actually orgasmed during their last session in the sack. So, communicate! A lot of men don’t know that they need to work harder.

12. There is such thing as the spontaneous orgasm

 You may have heard tales of women who orgasmed from riding a horse or getting a massage, and some of them may be true! Certain activities stimulate blood flow to the genitals and induce relaxation, two crucial components to reaching orgasm.

13. For the most part, men orgasm first

 It’s normal that a woman takes much longer than her male partner to reach orgasm. In fact studies have found that most women need at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to reach orgasm.

14. You can delay your guy’s orgasm

 If premature ejaculation on your partner’s part is making it impossible for you to orgasm, there is a way to slow him down, without ruining the mood: try applying firm pressure around the base of his penis with your hand.

Gut Check: 14 Ways Your Body Tells You, You’re With The Wrong Man

Gut Check: 14 Ways Your Body Tells You, You’re With The Wrong Man

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  Even if you don’t want to face it, even if you’ve already decided that your partner is perfect for X, Y and Z reasons, your body will not let you deny the truth: some matches aren’t meant to be. When you’re with the wrong person, the strain that takes on you emotionally will start to rear its head physically. Here are 14 ways your body is telling you you’re with the wrong partner.

1. You lack natural moisture

 This should be a surefire sign you don’t feel connected to your partner. If your vajayjay is failing to self-lubricate consistently, that means you don’t feel completely trusting of or bonded to your partner. For some women, dryness is just a medical condition, but if you’re young and/or totally healthy, and with the right partner, your va-jay-jay should be ready to go when that partner comes around.

2. You can’t sleep well next to him

 In order to fall asleep, you need to feel totally relaxed and nurtured. But your body won’t feel nurtured if you’re sharing your bed with a partner who doesn’t totally understand you, connect to you and take care of you in the ways you need. An overall feeling of wellbeing is essential for falling asleep, but it’s impossible next to the wrong partner.

3. You’re experiencing heightened anxiety

 If you’ve never struggled with anxiety before, but suddenly find yourself dealing with it regularly, this is your body’s way of acting out when you have let tons of negative thoughts or concerns pile up without addressing them. For example thoughts like, “Wow, my partner and I have very different view points on that crucial subject…” or “My partner doesn’t seem to care about my career.” Unresolved issues can amass, and come out in a giant, obscure cloud of anxiety.

4. You’re backed up

 There is a major connection between your brain and your gastrointestinal tract. If something’s wrong emotionally or you’re going through stress, your intestines fail to move in the way that they should and you can get constipated.

5. You’re tired all the time, even if you’re sleeping

 Even if you are sleeping enough, grappling with indecisive thoughts all day like “Am I investing years into a partner that I perhaps shouldn’t marry?” will exhaust you. The right partner energizes you.

6. You have an uncontrollable appetite

 Studies have found that stress can directly affect your appetite and, in most cases, will make you feel hungrier.

7. You have no appetite

 Of course, if you fall on the other end of the spectrum where emotional trauma overrides all your physical needs and you’re too busy worrying to notice your stomach rumbling, your appetite may have shrunk.

8. You can’t “you know”

 Just like you need to feel relaxed, at peace, and connected to your partner to self-lubricate, you also need all those components to climax. No matter how “good in bed” your partner is, there’s nobody as good as a man you feel deeply bonded to. And if you don’t, your body will not respond how you want.

9. You get the shakes

If you find yourself dealing with uncontrollable shakes around your partner, this could mean your body is going into Fight or Flight mode around that partner, and the adrenaline is causing you to shake. But that is not a mode your body should go in around the person you’re considering marrying!

10. You’re getting a lot of colds

 When you’re under emotional stress or feel you’re in a state of emotional unrest regularly, your immune system is weakened and you’re more susceptible to colds, flus and other viruses and infections.

11. Your blood pressure has risen

 Similar to the anxiety issue, if you have important questions or issues that you’re putting off facing (again, “Is this really the person I want to raise kids with?”) your blood pressure will take a hit.

12. You have lower back pain

 A lot of us carry emotional weight and stress in our lower back, and that area will start to sing if you don’t face your problems.

13. You don’t feel like exercising

 If you’re with the wrong partner, you’re not motivated to be your best self, and often the first thing to go is your willingness to work on your body.

14. You don’t feel like exercising

 If you’re with the wrong partner, you’re not motivated to be your best self, and often the first thing to go is your willingness to work on your body.

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Scientific Sexual Terms

There are a lot of sexual slang around. But there are also sexually related words that most of us never thought existed!

So, we did some research and found some really cool and interestingScientific and Medical Terms of Sexual Words. There are actually a lot of them! We fished out the ones we thought would interest women the most. Let’s start with the letter A.

Ablutolagnia – Ever felt hot and horny when taking a shower? Feeling aroused by taking showers and baths is called Ablutolagnia.

Acokoinonia – If you’re having sex without interest or desire for it.

Acomovulvate – is a clean, shaved, and hairless vulva

Acomoclitic – Most guys are acomoclitic, because they prefer an acomovulvate female.

Actus brevia/brevis – Inexperienced teenagers experience actus brevia/brevis. Otherwise known as premature ejaculation.

Agaptism – is a sex-less marriage.

Agynophelymity – If you can’t sexually satisfy any man, then you must be suffering from Agynophelymity or the inability to give sexual satisfaction.

Agnuopia – the submissive stare that women give to their partner during foreplay.

Allonemia – means fantasizing about someone more attractive when having sex with someone else. It’s like thinking of Bradd Pitt when you’re having sex with your boyfriend!

Amblyrosis – is the gradual decline of your sexual appetite because of either old age or having too much sex.

Amomaxia – I’m sure a lot of of people have done this! Amomaxia is having sex in a car.

Amychesis – Most women do this during sex; this is the act of running our nails down or scratching our partner’s back during sex.

Androidism – No, this doesn’t mean being a fan of Android phones. Androidism is getting sexually aroused by robots that look human.

Anisomastia – If one of your breasts is significantly bigger or smaller than the other then that’s Anisomastia.

Aphrodism – Ever felt like wanting to seduce a man just so he’ll suffer? Well that’s an act of Aphrodism, which is the desire to ignite a man’s passion so you can hurt, punish, or torture him.

20 Sexual Facts you may or may not know

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Think you know everything there is to know about sex? Think again! SheKnows shares 20 interesting sex facts that will blow your mind.

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1. Don't get all crazy!

The vibrator was originally invented in the 19th century as a way to reduce "hysteria." That seems a little extreme. However, we do not recommend testing that theory by taking away a woman's vibrator to see if she goes into a hysterical fit. That's just dangerous.

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2. Swarms of swimmers

Your average healthy man produces approximately 300 million sperm in just a teaspoon of his semen. However, it only takes one little swimmer to fertilize a woman’s egg.

3. Like it

Forget post-coital cuddling! According to a poll by consumer electronics site Retrevo.com, 36 percent of people under the age of 35 check their Facebook and Twitter accounts after a roll in the hay. Hopefully, they are not posting any pictures!

4. Get some!

Think men get laid more than women? Wrong! According to Men’s Fitness, women have sex 17 percent more often than the average guy. Go girls!

5. Make it last

Even though the male O seems to get all the attention, it turns out the women get the last laugh when it comes to climaxing. The average female orgasm lasts 20 seconds — 14 seconds longer than the male's six-second O.

6. Orgasms are good for you

Orgasms are good for your health! They can lower a woman's risk of heart disease, stroke, breast cancer and even depression. So have sex and get happy!

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7. Sexercise

Sex counts as a workout! During 30 minutes of active sex, you burn about 200 calories.

8. Get hot

Even though straight women reported only being aroused by men, researchers at the Queen's University in Kingston, Ontario, found that most women in a study became aroused by every sexual stimulus they saw — including nude male and female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex and even animal sex.

9. That's not so bad

When aroused, people are not as likely to think things are disgusting, according to a study published in the online journal PLOS ONE.

10. Use your brain

Researchers at Rutgers University, who used fMRI scanners to find out exactly what happens in your brain when you're aroused, found that different regions of the brain became activated in response to stimulation of the vagina, cervix, clitoris and nipples.

11. Don't hold it

Ever notice that it's kind of tough to go pee right after sex? Your body releases an antidiuretic hormone when you orgasm, which prohibits you from going potty as easily as usual. Just don't hold it for too long, or you could risk infection.

12. Just one

Most of the time, a woman only releases one egg per month.

13. Teen sex

According to Live Science, by the age of 19, a whopping 70 percent of American teenagers have already had sex.

14. Hold on... I've got to take this

Mom can multitask! According to a survey, at least 12 percent of women admitted to using their cellphones during sex.

15. The age for sex

The Kinsey Institute estimates that, on average, boys lose their virginity at age 16.9. For girls, the age jumps to 17.4.

16. Let's talk about sex

People who are more open to talking about sex are actually happier with their sex lives, according to Live Science.

17. Sexy eating

Think food is sexy? Some people admit to feeling a similar sense of arousal when thinking about food as they do when thinking about sex.

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18. Love your body

According to Live Science, a small study of obese women found that those who accepted their bodies reported better sex. So appreciate your body, or your sex life could suffer!

19. What a pain!

According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, a person's pain threshold significantly increases during arousal.

20. Take a load off!

According to a study from the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, the amygdala — the part of the brain involved in fear and anxiety — shuts down during a female orgasm. So that brain mush you experience during sex is legit!